TRUST the timing! Timing is EVERYTHING!!

There is NOTHING worse than an emotional crisis when you are single! Ladies, I know you will be able to relate AND some men (those who will own up to it anyways). So here we go ... you are single and have been for quite a while. You are not the happiest you could be about that status but you deal, no biggie because life goes on and you get by. You enjoy an occasional date here and there. A few text messages that turn to phone calls and you are content with that right now because truth be told you are STILL working on you, ya know? But what happens next? HE appears (or SHE for my fellas)!

IN WENDY WILLIAMS VOICE

Everything is damn near perfect from jump street (that should have been THE clue). The energy released between the two of you has created feelings that has you thinking this could be your soulmate. These are vibrations like nothing you have ever experienced or felt before. It is one of those situations where it is going so well, TOO WELL, that you want to run away, far far away and not look back. Every ounce of your being says head for the hills but that heart of yours says NO ... STAY!! Word of advice ...

So what do you do? YOU FOLLOW THE DAMN HEART!!

You will listen to the above advice the next time ... I hope!!

Anyway, before you know it you are WIDE THE FXCK OPEN!! Lets add the fact that his actions match yours, step for step, topped off with his actions backing up his words as well. There was none of that "what you think I want to hear" conversation, none of the "typical male jargon" ... not at all!

Nope, that was NOT him at all so sister girls you are falling deeper and deeper at this point. No matter how hard you pump your brakes or attempt to sashay away in those 4-5 inch heels this thing is happening. Are you afraid? Apprehensive? HELL YES but you are also excited as hell and it isn't long before the two of you are referencing and singing that good old Deborah Cox song!

This is so unreal! From common interests, astrological signs that say you are a perfect match (you both believe in what the stars have to say), spontaneous conversations that both can follow and chime in without missing a beat, both believe in alien existence to include your own part in it and both MELANIN ARROGANT & PROUD!

How did you allow yourself to be opened up so wide after only NINE days is what you ask yourself. Keep in mind, there has been no sexual activity, just an occasional kiss and hug when time permitted you to see one another which isn't too often. There has, however, been plenty of intimate moments via conversation and that's what placed you in the predicament you are in ... that damn conversation! No, they were not sexual in nature but enlightening and there is nothing sexier than a man with vocabulary who knows how to use it. The man is college educated and has substance! He is in tune with who he is, who his people are and wants to do something to propel his community positively from its current state. It is so refreshing to meet a man of this caliber living in a day and age where so many men are still in the dark on how to approach a real woman ... but THIS man, HE NAILED IT!

So why is timing everything? Well, remember how every move made seemed methodically planned and thought out up to the moment your inner, deeper voice started speaking? On more than one occasion in those 9 days, that deeper consciousness told you to "chill out" and "calm down" but because there was an overwhelmingly unusual and new vibration in your presence you ignored that warning. There were moments and comments made that you questioned in your mind ... why didn't you express them aloud young lady? Now, everything your internal warning system (discernment) attempted to shield you from you are feeling. Why didn't you leave it on the phone until after he took care of the things that has him traveling out of the area? Now, that communication that was extremely heavy has come almost to a complete halt and here you are questioning yourself about the choices you were making regarding this man. You've now extracted your emotions because this is what you've learned to do over the years of being single. Are you mad? Yes but at yourself for not being a better judge and listener of self. There could be a lot of reasons communication has come to an almost dead halt but without his explanation you'll never know. Everything in you wants to call or text what you're feeling but HERE AGAIN ...

This man is where he is, doing what he is doing and of that you are not a part. Learn how to NOT insert yourself where you have not been welcomed no matter how hard it is! Be accountable for your part in this and deal with it. Upon his return, if it is to be, have that conversation but until that time continue to do you and what you were doing before he WALTZED HIS FINE, EDUCATED ASS INTO YOUR LIFE! We love hastily moving into things, at some point the lesson learned will be taken into all areas so that this doesn't have to happen again but until then my sisters (and brothers who may relate) ...